David Chinsky & Associates
The Leadership Fit  -  Management Development & Executive Coaching

August 2009

 

The Leadership Fit®  Newsletter is written and emailed monthly to leaders seeking the

clarity, confidence, effectiveness and vitality

necessary for achieving their highest level of leadership fitness™.

 

To learn more about our Institute for Leadership Fitness™, including dates for our upcoming programs in Ann Arbor, MI, Lansing, MI, and Phoenix, AZ, please visit

www.theleadershipfit.com/institute

 

  IN THIS ISSUE

 

Communication Wants and Don't Wants

Becoming a Positive Force

Now Enrolling Leaders in Our Next Three Institutes

One More Thing - When You Are Inspired

Communication Wants and Don't Wants

 

During one of our Institute for Leadership Fitness™ workshops conducted last week, participants focused on how to become more masterful communicators.  In addition to learning their communication preferences, these leaders learned how to connect meaningfully with their teams by becoming more aware of their employees' communication wants and don't wants.

 

I first asked our aspiring leaders what they appreciated when others communicated with them.  They pointed to several communication wants of their own, including:

  • Honesty
  • Professionalism
  • Politeness
  • Respect
  • Engaging Dialogue
  • Factual Discussion
  • Clarity and Conciseness
  • Clear Expectations
  • Patience
  • Thoughtfulness
  • Objectivity
  • Tolerance for Different Points of View
  • Purposeful
  • Fairness

We then turned to what these leaders did not want when others communicated with them.  We heard the following:

  • Too much or too little detail
  • Long-winded explanations
  • Harshness
  • Lack of understanding
  • Lack of openness to other ideas
  • Talking over one's head
  • Condescension
  • Interruptions
  • Hurriedness
  • Yelling and other aggressive behavior
  • Dishonest
  • Rude
  • Fake
  • Lack of focus and direction
  • One-sided

One of the simple secrets to more masterful communication is to communicate with others the way we wish to be communicated with ourselves.  By delivering more of the communication wants and avoiding the communication don't wants listed above, leaders become more authentic and influential. 



Now Enrolling Leaders in Our

Ann Arbor, Lansing and Phoenix Institutes

 

We are now enrolling leaders in our year-long leadership development experience we call The Institute for Leadership Fitness™.  For program dates in Ann Arbor, Lansing and Phoenix, and to enroll, please go to www.theleadershipfit.com/institute

 

The Institute introduces 16 unique tools and processes designed to increase participants' clarity, confidence, effectiveness and vitality.  At the end of the twelve-month program, leaders are more effective at:

  • Setting a clear direction consistent with the strategic goals of their organization
  • Sorting and prioritizing opportunities competing for their attention
  • Selling their ideas to colleagues and customers
  • Creating a work environment in which high performers thrive
  • Retaining star talent and building a pipeline of future leaders
  • Taming their self-sabotaging "inner voices" so they do not get the way of taking action
  • Utilizing delegation as a means to accelerate the development of successor candidates
  • Developing a repertoire of positive habits that feed their confidence
  • Choosing foods, exercises and other healthy habits to maintain peak performance

 

Becoming a

Positive Force

 

Each month, we review a book selected to both engage and challenge leaders as they seek to make a difference in their organizations.

 Lift

Our pick this month is Lift b y Ryan and Robert Quinn.  This father and son team begin by grounding us in the science of aerodynamic lift as discovered by the Wright brothers and other pioneers of early flight, and then demonstrate how each of us can achieve the psychological equivalent of aerodynamic lift.

 

The authors focus on four questions that can empower anyone to become purpose centered, internally directed, other focused and externally open.  

 

Sharing their own personal examples and stories, the Quinns help demonstrate how easy it is for all of us to act in ways that prevent us from achieving the requisite lift to become a positive force in the lives of others.

 

By consistently asking and answering the following four questions, the book claims that we can experience lift ourselves, and become a positive force in any situation.  

  1. What result do I want to create?
  2. What would my story be if I were living the values I expect of others?
  3. How do others feel about this situation?
  4. What are three (or four or five) strategies I could use to accomplish my purpose for this situation?  

Because we must experience lift ourselves if we hope to lift others, the authors present us with practical ways of moving outside of our natural states in which we seek comfort and react automatically to the world around us. 

 

In so doing, they help us see how we can improve our leadership and increase our influence. 

 

For our current reading list, please click here.

One More Thing

When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project,

All your thoughts break their bonds, Your mind transcends limitations,

Your conciousness expands in every direction,

And you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world.

Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive.

And you discover yourself to be a greater person by far

Than you ever dreamed yourself to be.

 

-Patanjali

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